Q. I have had panic attacks for a few years. They were diagnosed by my doctor, but, I didn’t want to take medication. The panic episodes come and go, but recently they have been overwhelming. I get dizzy, have a fast heartbeat, and fear I’m going to pass out. Why do I keep having them and what can I do to control them?
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Q. I am a first-year college student who made C’s and D’s this semester. I know that I am depressed, but my parents tell me that I’m just lazy. They are against all medications for mental health problems and refuse to discuss it with me. They have told me I can use St. John’s wort because it is natural. What can I do to convince them that I need “real” medication?
Q. I have been depressed and anxious since my daughter and her husband began to have problems a few years ago. I’m seeing a therapist, but she suggested that I talk to my doctor about medication. I have an appointment with my doctor, but I get really nervous, and forget to ask questions. Can you provide a list of questions for me to take to the doctor with me?
Q. My 23-year-old daughter is pregnant. Her husband is a heavy drinker and smoker.
Q. Everyone is talking about mindfulness as a way to relieve stress and anxiety. What is it? I need something that will help my workplace stress.
Q. I think I’m depressed; I still go to work and go out with friends, but I don’t enjoy my life anymore. The depression started after my divorce five years ago. I’ve never been to therapy. It scares me a bit to think about it, but I know I need help.
Q. I was anorexic in my teen years. Now I’m in my late 40’s and it has come back. People tell me how good I look, and even praise me on how little I’m eating. Please warn your readers about the dangers of anorexia.
Q. I think my husband has PTSD, but he refuses to acknowledge it. He was in Iraq, and he’s experienced some stressful events on his job since returning home. He gets angry each time I mention his problems. Please explain more about PTSD since he reads your column.
Q. I’m a single woman taking care of my 92-year-old mother who has dementia. Although I have some help, much of the responsibility is mine. My job is suffering, and I feel like I’m losing my mind. Some of her friends have even been critical of me. Please give me some suggestions.
Q. My teenage son smokes pot fairly often. I understand that it can be more harmful to adolescents than adults. Could you write something about the dangers that marijuana poses for teens?
Q. Recently a friend of mine, who was only 18, committed suicide. I knew he was upset, and I feel guilty that I didn’t take him seriously enough. Please address the issue of what to do if we suspect a friend is suicidal.
Q. I married a man several months ago. We are both well-adjusted, happy people in our early 70s. The problem is that his three daughters seem resentful of me. He was a widower, so I did not break up his marriage. Is this typical behavior for adult children? What can we do to resolve the conflict?
Q. Everything that happens at work upsets me. I lash out at people, get my feelings hurt and often cause trouble without reason. I don’t want this to happen. My boss said to “toughen up.” Can you give me some suggestions on how to resolve my problem?
Q. I feel like my husband and I have drifted apart after only a few years of marriage. We argue frequently, and usually I just walk away. I’m not certain that we even love each other now. What can we do to revive our relationship?
Q. I had the flu a few weeks ago, and I’ve been really depressed since then. Although I’ve had some depression in the past, I’ve never felt this down. Is there a connection between the flu and my recent depression?
Q. A few weeks ago, you published an article about a woman who was considering marrying a narcissist. Well, I married a woman who I THINK is a narcissist. We’ve been together several years and it doesn’t get better. What causes someone to become a narcissist? Also, please give some suggestions for men living with narcissistic wives.
Q. I’m undergoing chemotherapy for breast cancer. I’ve had people say unbelievable things to me. I know they are trying to be helpful, but they aren’t. Could you please address the issue of what NOT to say to a cancer patient?
Q. I always thought I was depressed, but recently my doctor diagnosed me as Bipolar II. I understand that this is different from Bipolar I, but I still find it rather frightening. Can you tell me more about the difference between the disorders?
Q. I am 45, and the man I’m seeing proposed to me on Christmas. The problem is that all of my friends say he is a narcissist. I’m becoming fearful of accepting his proposal because maybe my friends are right. Can you tell me more about narcissistic behavior?
Q. I am determined to lose weight in the new year, but I can’t stop eating. I eat when I’m not hungry, and I hide my eating from my family and friends. Last week, I ate a box of donuts while driving home from work. I put the box in the trash immediately, so my husband wouldn’t see it. What is wrong with me and what can I do to stop it?
Q. My 17-year-old son texts while he is driving. I’ve asked him to stop several times, but he says he’s a good driver and nothing will happen to him. I’m really frightened, especially with the holiday traffic. Could you please explain why so many young people don’t think it’s a problem?
Q. I hate the holidays. I have a lovely family, but I get depressed thinking about the good times we had when our children were small and my parents were alive, so I sit around and do nothing. What can I do to make my holidays more pleasant?
Q. Because of my husband’s job, we have to entertain and give holiday parties. I am sick of the people who drink too much, make fools of themselves, and drive away half drunk. How can I keep the heavy drinkers away from the alcohol, so that no one feels remorse the next morning? Please give some advice to me and the party-goers. Maybe they’ll read your column.
Q. My son was in a serious car accident last year. He was driving, but it was not his fault. He was in the hospital for a week, but the other two friends who were with him were more seriously hurt. One could not return to school. My son seemed fine for months, but suddenly he has become argumentative and difficult. Could this be a result of the accident trauma?
Q. I am involved with a man who verbally abuses me, but he has never been physically abusive. Every time I leave him, he convinces me to come back. I do everything to please him because I really love him. I was told that I’m in a co-dependent relationship. Can you explain exactly what that means?