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Help! My fiance’ is a narcissist

Q. I am 45, and the man I’m seeing proposed to me on Christmas. The problem is that all of my friends say he is a narcissist. I’m becoming fearful of accepting his proposal because maybe my friends are right. Can you tell me more about narcissistic behavior?

Person struggling with overeating wants to change for 2015

Q. I am determined to lose weight in the new year, but I can’t stop eating. I eat when I’m not hungry, and I hide my eating from my family and friends. Last week, I ate a box of donuts while driving home from work. I put the box in the trash immediately, so my husband wouldn’t see it. What is wrong with me and what can I do to stop it?

Mother afraid for son’s texting and driving

Q. My 17-year-old son texts while he is driving. I’ve asked him to stop several times, but he says he’s a good driver and nothing will happen to him. I’m really frightened, especially with the holiday traffic. Could you please explain why so many young people don’t think it’s a problem?

Hostess tired of entertaining heavy drinkers

Q. Because of my husband’s job, we have to entertain and give holiday parties. I am sick of the people who drink too much, make fools of themselves, and drive away half drunk. How can I keep the heavy drinkers away from the alcohol, so that no one feels remorse the next morning? Please give some advice to me and the party-goers. Maybe they’ll read your column.

Is son suffering from trauma of car accident?

Q. My son was in a serious car accident last year. He was driving, but it was not his fault. He was in the hospital for a week, but the other two friends who were with him were more seriously hurt. One could not return to school. My son seemed fine for months, but suddenly he has become argumentative and difficult. Could this be a result of the accident trauma?

Granddaughter may be battling eating disorder

Q. My teenage granddaughter spent some time with me recently. She eats very little, and is extremely thin. I have also heard her throwing up after she has eaten a small meal. Could you tell me more about bulimia and anorexia and what causes it? Should I confront her? Should I try to get her help?

Husband fears wife is addicted to pain medicine

Q. My wife who is in her early 60s had surgery several months ago. She continues to take seven to eight pain killers a day that she gets from several doctors. She is irritable, out of it and denies that pain meds are her problem. Could you please explain the dangers of these medications so that my wife and others will understand the problems of pain pill addiction?

Communication is key in maintaining healthy marriage

Q. I’m in my early 40’s and I’m getting married for the second time. I had such a bad marriage the first time that I didn’t think I would ever be with anyone again. I’m frightened that this marriage will end up as horrible as the last one. Please give me some pointers on how to make my marriage successful this time.

Woman seeks answers after husband asks for divorce

Q. My husband has asked for a divorce. He says there is no one else; he is just tired of being with me. He’s refusing to discuss it or get help, even though I have begged him to seek counseling. I’ve moved out, and he doesn’t want me to return. I’m 28, and I feel like my life is over. How can I move on when I don’t know what happened?

Depression is an illness, not shameful

Robin Williams, who had wealth, fame and the respect of millions, committed suicide last week. His actions are another reminder that depression, mental illness and substance abuse can be found in the richest and most successful. It can be found in friends, in family. It can be found in self. His suicide was a reminder that we never really know the pain of others, and often do not understand the depth of our own pain.

In order to reconnect after affair, couple must seek counseling

Q. My husband cheated on me with one of his co-workers. He knows he made a mistake and begged my forgiveness. I am trying to forgive him even though it is difficult. I want to find out what is wrong with our marriage that made him cheat in the first place. He says there is nothing wrong, and he is happy. I’ve always thought we had a good marriage, too. He says that he doesn’t know why he cheated. Could this be true?